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http://www.ajpmonline.org/article/S0749-3797%2811%2900327-8/abstract
Yet another study that tells parents to back off. I often think about this on playgrounds, where I always back off so that Theo can have a social experience with other kids. The results seem obvious to me since I see first hand that the kids with hovering parents do not get as much exercise ('let me help you do everything!') and do not play with other kids. Also, those particular parents seem to think their kids will really hurt themselves if they don't have a hand on them, telling them what to do at all times. Maybe if they stepped back, the kids would effectively learn about being cautious while exploring in a free and imaginative way in this kid-friendly place. Theo took a few short tumbles, ran into bars, etc. He never really hurt himself, but most importantly he learned caution, tested his limits safely, and can now quickly judge when something is beyond his ability and avoid it or ask for help. I read my kindle at the park, knowing that he will be fine. This only happened because I let him find out for himself the consequences of his actions in an appropriate environment. Sometimes a little discomfort can go a long, long way towards maturity. Parents can stunt a child's physical, emotional, and social growth when they don't know when it back off and stop manufacturing every perfect moment for their child. What do you think?? I remember whole summers of running around with neighborhood kids with only a few elderly neighbors, usually sitting on the porch mostly ignoring us. We turned out okay i think....I want to emphasize that I keep regular times and events throughout the day where I do constructive activities and enforce discipline consistently no matter what the situation, but free play without adult interference is important for development. Besides, how else could I get all my house work done, cook, take showers, etc...I call it fostering independence!

A Taste of Autumn

With the temperature dropping below 100 degrees, the world outside is beckoning to us. The vegetables are growing vigorously for a change since the heat seemed to stifle blooms and new growth. Living things were under cover, waiting for the oppressive waves of heat to pass. The Fall weather is such a nice transition! I think it is time for some visits to Turkey Run and southern Indiana......picnics in the shade (yellowjackets swarming), walks in the park, and the inevitable digging up of worms. Looking back since Theo's birthday we have enjoyed a visit from my mother, fun with cousins at the Zoo, trips to the pool, more grandparents, and regular visits to the IMA gardens as the summer bulbs have cycled through. We've spent time at the YMCA every week- Theo in playschool while I worked out, then off to swim a bit. I finally signed Theo up for a YMCA dance class starting this week, and look forward to peeking through the glass at the cuteness/craziness going on to music. He needs to learn to follow directions in a group from a non-parental unit. He'll also practice various rhythms, beats, basic moves, and ham it up in front of a big mirror. I hope he has a good time while I fast walk and row away to my latest book. Well, enjoy the pictures. Soon there should be many more of the state parks!